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Thursday, July 28, 2005

Family is overrated

Okay all of you little boys and girls, here is the thing, i have family issues. Like seriously i don't know what it is about my family, but we are not that close. Reasons.... there are many, but it isn't everyones buisness to know about them so i'm not going to list them. Thing is that i am part of my family and whether i like it or not we are related. This being said, i am not sure what to do with them. I spend my time here in penang away from the house. Going out all the time. Just chilling with my friends. But thats me. When i get home its not like my parents talk to me. Its pretty much the same as going out because my mom doesn't cook, my dad just sits at the tv and when they do choose to talk to me its never to ask how my day went, but more like, "hey i think u should do this, and do that". Thing is that it isn't like i haven't realized what a wreak i'm in. I am constantly worried about stuff actually. Its just harder when my parents don't realize anything. I guess its my fault that I don't talk to my parents, but i also feel that they never talk to me. I hate the idea that I have to do everything like be the one who shares my problems with my parents and talks to them honestly because they don't tell me shit, and when i did this before they just talk to the rest of my family about it. makes me feel so damn stupid cause i kinda think that they will keep it to themselves. But yea just writing this out makes me feel better, but if u wanna give advice go ahead

posted by Dr.Saint at 9:03 PM

9 Comments:

  • I take my family totally for granted. They are always gonna be there, and I don't see much useful (on a deeper level) from them because I have examined everything they have put foreward and found it utterly lacking. This leads me to just withdraw and say nothing important or self-revealing. fucking relationships.

    I hope that helps :D

    By Blogger splintersinopenwounds, at 11:53 PM  

  • haha yea i know i usually run away, but its cause i'm rather nervous about coming out and saying stuff directly to my parents about my parents, but yea i did the other day. i was just like "yea i don't like being around our family because our family is messed up" and my mom kinda went crazy. like berserk crazy... like then i said when we get together we never talk about anything except for my parents criticizing me, and my mom just laughed and said that was normal conversation. then when i told her not to tell family she laughed again and said, well they are family. so pretty much i'm going with zac and saying fuck relationships with family. go friendship!

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 9:44 PM  

  • I said fucking relationships as in all of them because they are hard work...but take whatever you will.

    By Blogger splintersinopenwounds, at 12:44 AM  

  • dude i know my mom is fucked up, but my dad sorta is too cause he doesn't talk at all. but yea i had an emotional day today. for the first time in 1-2 years i cried. i was so damn pissed off at my mom. it just seems that with her everything is my fault. i dunno if my parents realize that almost everything they have asked of me i have done yet they always complain about me not caring about the family. quite a headache...

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 5:56 AM  

  • i might agree that a lot of ppl will desert you when the going gets rough, but i also have to say that friends do stick around and if ur family is made up of 4 ppl i believe a bigger ammount of friends would stick around than family.

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 2:49 AM  

  • yea i know u have some family issues as do i. but at the moment the only thing i am getting from my parents is money. and one day i hope to pay that all back. Also i dunno if my parents want to do that or if its just their responsibility since they brought us into the world. as for friends, since none of us is working i don't believe we can support one another, but i know that we lend each other money and do sorta take care of each other with the money that we do have.

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 5:45 AM  

  • You may not have tried to understand your parents, but for me its what I do on a daily basis. Understanding why my parents act the way they do is how I continue to stay sane when I fight with them.

    Problems around the world have always been big. But that is not to say that problems at home are miniscule compared to them. Some things originate from the family.

    What about the friends that take over raising a kid if their parents die. Like God Parents and stuff. Those aren't always family. Those are sometimes friends. They would adopt that child out of the bond they had of the parents. I don;t know if you can ever say that your friends would give up as much as ur parents, because as friends at the moment we don't have as much to give up. We cannot change each others diapers when we are a few months old, but when we are able to i believe there is a bond between ppl that is as strong as the bonds between some families.

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 12:01 AM  

  • my wife will be my friend and my kids will be my friends as well as my family. for this thread i wasn't exactly posting about families of the world, i was talking about my family, but the way u translated it u kinda made it sound like i was talking about everyones family which is a mistake.

    about the adoption u said that friends won't do as much as parents will but i said that the most a parent can do is take care of their child. but if a friend adopts a child isn't that the same as being such a good friend u are in affect a parent. hard to explain. if anyone gets this and can explain better they are welcome to help me out.

    By Blogger Dr.Saint, at 1:41 AM  

  • Mic man, you've got to be devestated. All the crazy emotions. We're totally here for you.

    By Blogger splintersinopenwounds, at 11:55 PM  

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